Daily life, Quote of the day

Quote of the Day: Friendship

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It will be a quick post about friendship today. I’ve just had a lovely dinner out with my friends from work tonight and it just made me think about how important my friends are to me. I’m sure you all would agree; without any friends, life would become quite lonely really, a very boring place.

Here are some of my favourite quotes about friendship, I’d like to share!

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.
― Elbert Hubbard

Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’
― C.S. Lewis

If you have good friends, no matter how much life is sucking , they can make you laugh.
― P.C. Cast

So ask yourself, how important are your friends to you?

Najmah

Book Reviews, Reviews

Book Review: The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton

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I used to be able to finish one to two books a day. Nowadays due to work and other responsibilities I’m not able to read as much as I would love to. So when I saw this book at the library, I just picked it up thinking it would be something different to what I usually go for. I had no idea who the author was, I just skimmed through the blurb and contemplated whether I really would be able to get into a typical dry love story like this.

The blurb went like this: ‘When the Countess Ellen Olenska returns from Europe, fleeing her brutish husband, her rebellious independence and passionate awareness of life stir the educated sensitivity of Newland Archer, already engaged to be married to the Countess’s cousin May Welland, “that terrifying product of the social system he belonged to and believed in, the young girl who knew nothing and expected everything.” As the drama unfolds, Edith Wharton’s sharp ironic wit and Jamesian mastery of form create a disturbingly accurate picture of men and women caught in a society that denies humanity while desperately defending “civilisation”.’

The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton is not your typical love triangle, so you will not enjoy it if you’re expecting a cute, happy story. I was pleasantly surprised and right from the onset I became engrossed, I just couldn’t put the book down.


Based in upper-class New York City in the 1870s, in a society where people “dreaded scandal more than disease.” In ways still relevant and relatable today. Before I go on, I have to mention that reading about New York City reminded me of Gossip Girl, it used to be my favourite show and this book was actually mentioned in the show. Back to the story, we are introduced into Newland Archer’s world, who is seemingly happily engaged to the traditional May Welland. But his world soon turns upside down, when the mysterious Countess Ellen Olenska (who is also May’s cousin) returns back to New York from Europe, after a unhappy marriage. Ellen is complete opposite to May; unconventional and emotional and Archer falls deeply in love with her. Yearning for the freedom to be with her makes him question the society they live in. Ultimately Archer has to make a decision that will fulfil his life or destroy it.


I have to applaud Wharton’s writing; she has perfectly portrayed Archer’s inner turmoil and struggles between his desire to be with Countess Ellen Olenska, which he can only dream of and his duty towards his wife. I actually began to empathise with his character, in some parts actively hoping/wishing he would leave May and go to Ellen. It made me think about the society we live in, where if there was someone stuck in the same position as Archer today; I don’t think he/she would think twice or make the sacrifice at all – he/she would leave the person and be with the one they love. I guess times have changed a lot!


During the course of reading the book, I discovered there was a film adaptation of the book made in 1993, starring Daniel Day-Lewis, Michelle Pfeiffer and Winona Ryder. I don’t know why I didn’t just google it at the beginning but good thing I didn’t, it is always best to read the book first. So I still need to watch it, which should be great!


This book had pretty much taken over my life for the last month, so finding another book just as good as this will not be easy. Overall, I really enjoyed reading The Age of Innocence, Wharton’s writing kept me gripped and interested all the way through. I would recommend anyone to give it a try and you’ll be surprised like I was.

Interview, Profile

Interview: Natasha Asghar – Writer, Presenter, Radio DJ

Natasha Asghar


Natasha Asghar
is a writer, radio Dj and presenter. Graduating with a Master’s degree in Politics, she got a taste of media by chance, and has not looked back since. She offers her pearls of wisdom on getting into the media industry.

Tell us a bit about yourself, your background.

I’m an only child of an accountant/politician and a doctor. I was born in Newport, South Wales and studied there until I completed my A-levels. After school I moved to University in London. Whilst at University, most of my friends were working in the student union or doing temp work to make extra cash as a weekend job. I began hosting a show on a channel called Vectone. After nine months I began studying for my master’s degree, so I could not continue with researching, presenting and doing all of the running around for the show by myself and fulfilling the course requirements.

After completing my Masters in Contemporary British Politics and Media, I took up a job as a banker. But I missed the media buzz, so I started doing little bits here and there on the weekends.

I then left the job at the bank and decided to give media my all. It was at this point I started working for Buzz Asia, Asian Woman Magazine as their Agony Aunt and also B4U Music. I won’t lie, there was a lot of struggle and difficulty as there was not much stability, so I chopped and changed jobs from 2012-13; moved and travelled a lot for work, then out of the blue, I went for an audition at ZEE TV.

The rest is history.

You made a huge change moving from politics into media, do you have any plans going back to politics?

My father (Mohammad Asghar) is still in politics (as the Conservative Regional Assembly Member for South Wales East). I have and always will stand by him, in each and every way I possibly can. I do have a keen interest in politics and with the role I do choose to remain impartial to all political parties.

As for my political ambitions; right now I love my job and have not thought of doing anything along those lines.

But as for the future, who knows? Never say never right?

How difficult was it to present, produce and research your own radio show?

I had never worked in radio, until Buzz Asia and although I knew how to present, I had no idea about the technical side of it?

Admittedly I was very fortunate to have a wonderful station Manager ‘Raj King’ who was really supportive and my fellow presenters Zee Khan and Doni Brasco both very patiently trained me on the technical side of radio.

I quite enjoyed the freedom to talk about things and was able to help countless people through the show with issues they were going through. Although I was getting inundated with emails from listeners for help, it was hard to juggle that with other jobs, but time management is one of my strong points. Plus I really loved radio, so I made time to juggle my other responsibilities too.

There is not a doubt in my mind, radio is a fantastic medium, which I had never really considered before I became a part of it. However when I became more involved, I honestly never looked back and it will always have a very special place in my heart.

What do you like most about your job?, What do you like least?

I love the variety of each day; every single day is different. One day, we may have a top Bollywood celebrity, then a self made billionaire followed by a Non Governmental Organisation (NGO) representative talking about a really important health issue. Plus I love everyone at Zee, they are such a friendly bunch of people, the least favourite part of my day is when we have to go home! (As sad as that may sound!)

What has been the happiest day of your life?

There are a few but I would say the most recently was when I hosted the ZEE Bollywood Rockstars concert, at Wembley Arena. It was in front of 6,000 people and my parents were sat in the 3rd row. Their facial expressions were priceless.

What do you hope to achieve in the next 5 years?

World domination – You can interpret that however you like!

What one word would you use to describe yourself?

Blessed

What would you advise someone who is wondering whether or not to go into media? Say there own radio show?

I will never glamourise the media industry to anyone. I have had a mighty struggle over the years and some of my nearest and dearest can vouch for the times I used to get highly emotional out of sheer frustration. There is a dark side and a wonderful side and I’ve been incredibly privileged to have met some people along my journey who have supported me and stood by me, when I was totally new in the industry and we are still firm friends even now.

For anyone who wishes to get into media, here are some of my pearls of wisdom,

  1. Don’t expect to become Neeve, Bobby Friction, Nihal overnight. It takes time, practice, patience and effort.
  2. Be prepared to WORK from the ground up. I see so many people wanting to get into the media industry, thinking they are already born stars and should be given what they want. It is a SLOW process so be prepared to work for it.
  3. Don’t expect media to pay your bills straight away. It is very hard to find a full-time, well paid job in media and the competition is fierce. My father always taught me, when it comes to work – to have a plan A, B, C and D. It’s something I have never forgotten. When I worked in radio, I worked freelance at B4U, and at the online shopping channel, I hosted various events, then helped my father out with the accountancy whenever I could and also wrote for Asian Woman in my spare time. So if you want to get into radio or TV, make sure you have a few back up plans up your sleeve.
  4. Be prepared to make time for your work TV/radio you may get the role however you won’t be given a researcher to do all the leg work, so be prepared to run around A LOT.
  5. Don’t see any job as small. Some people turn down great opportunities and experience because it’s not a BIG NAME in the industry. Don’t make that mistake you never know, you may end up working for what is to become or will be one of the biggest companies in the media industry.

Natasha can be found on Twitter @natasghar and on Facebook.

Daily life, Slimming World

Slimming World: Small steps to a new me

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As long as I can remember I never had any qualms over my weight when I was younger, however all that changed when I started secondary school. As the pounds piled on it affected my confidence, I lost my self-esteem and it made me feel self-conscious all the time. I tried a number of different diets but I never took them seriously and still ate or more so stuffed my face with the odd junk food here and then.

So when I read about people losing so much weight whilst on Slimming World, I was abit scepticSlimming Worldal I thought it was the same as the other diets and it wouldn’t work. I still went along to the group with my sister. It won’t be wrong to say I felt daunted, abit apprehensive if I’m honest for that very first group meeting but our consultant, Clair was so supportive and helpful throughout the whole process and pretty soon we were weighed and registered.

It has now been over six months since then and I haven’t looked back since. Losing four pounds in my first week gave me to strength to carry on and it wasn’t long that I had lost my first stone. I was so happy which in turn motivated me and made me more determined to lose weight. So right this moment, I’m so proud to tell you that I have lost over three and a half stones. 😀

Joining Simming World was the best decision I made ever, I feel more active, confident and generally more happier with myself than I was before.

If anyone is thinking about joining Slimming World, my advice is to just do it – DON’T overthink it, make that decision and it’ll change your life. Trust me! 🙂

Najmah

For more info on Slimming World, you can go on their website:

http://www.slimmingworld.com/about-us/about-slimming-world.aspx

Reviews

Fifty Shades of Grey trailer

The much awaited full trailer of the bestselling book, that has become a global phenomenon is finally here. Is it hot or is it a big no no?

The first fully fledged trailer of Fifty Shades of Grey is here and YES, it is the official trailer. Due to the sexual content of the books, fans have been waiting to see how the movie will work, whether it will be similar to the book and if Dakota Johnson and Jamie Dornan can pull off Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey seamlessly.

At first glance you notice a timid, quiet Anastasia Steele who clearly looks out of place in Grey Enterprises; this scene has a little titbit similarity to the movie The Devil Wear Prada with Meryl Streep. Especially Dakota Johnson’s whole look which seems inspired by Anne Hathaway’s character of Andrea Sachs. Next we get a look at Christian Grey, who tries to look intimidating but fails miserably but hey, the interior of his office looks amazing. I want to have an office exactly like that.

The only plus side of the trailer, was Beyonce’s remix version of  ‘Crazy in Love’ which really stood out for me, it added that extra factor and made it worth watching.

All in all the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer did not do it for me. I didn’t see anything new or different however I’m reserving my full judgement for when the movie releases next year on Valentines Day.

Have a look and let me know what you think – did the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer do it for you?

Najmah

Daily life

A new direction for Najmah Writes

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It’s a quick update but firstly, I’m extremely sorry that I have been away for months and I know no amount of excuses can cover it. But I have some very exciting news to share with all of you.

After months of contemplating, I’m so so happy to announce that my blog is now . . . najmahwrites.com. 🙂

Najmah Writes
najmahwrites.com

Don’t ask me why Najmah Writes…(cos I know, I haven’t been doing a whole lot of writing in the last few months), but to be honest that was the only one that stuck out from the rest!

Anyway, keep a look out as there will many changes coming in the next few weeks which I’m pretty psyched about. Leave your comments, feedback on the new site, I would love to read them.

Thank you!

Najmah